Labels

People like to assign labels to others. It's what we do in order to relate to them better. We also do that in order to judge them but that's for a different post.

Labels like depressed or anxious get used by unqualified people when once they were only given out by healthcare professionals. Now we get people calling others psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists without any real education on the subject or any years of medical school to back these labels up.

You get books that have psychopath in the title that goes on to discuss narcissists instead. The title was just to grab your attention.

  No Sherlock, you have high functioning autism but that doesn't sound as cool. 

Are you an overt or covert narcissist? What about borderline personality? Do you have a personality disorder or a mood disorder? 

Why don't you fit neatly into all the categories in the DSM V?   Plot twist: with mental health issues there is usually always overlap with other disorders. Even experts get it wrong. Probably a reason that many are afraid to make a diagnosis and if they did would the patient then identify as that disorder from then on? 

Most narcs won't get a diagnosis as they will never seek out help unless they are up against the wall and about to lose everything. Even if they did go into therapy, only 1% might benefit from it but it will never make them better people, just more careful.      

This blog is mostly to do with narcissism but I will wander into other areas as the narc can be a slippery creature. 

But what labels to use?

You can go insane with diagnosis if you don't have training and may end up labeling a total asshole as a narcissist.   Even if some looks and acts depressed they may just be wallowing in self pity and no cure for depression will ever work for them.  

Those picked on/chosen by the narcissist, I don't want to call them/us victims as we are so much more than that. We've merely been made to forget just how strong we can be. Others have called them supply ... as in they supply the narc with all the empathy and emotion that they themselves cannot generate.    

Narcissists are like psychic vampires who drain their supply of life and take away any hope for the future that they may of had.  

I feel confident enough to name these love supply people as 'targets.'   I feel that I was targeted by my ex in a 'win me over' campaign and I do think that she was indeed a Covert Narcissist, with a few other things thrown in.  

The Narc, N, CN, or just toxic person. What to call them? I think 'User' covers them as that is what they do with people. However I don't think it does them justice so for the sake of this blog I shall call them, Controlling, Narcissistic, User, Tyrants ... or CNUT for short. See what I did there?  

Not that is out of the way I now feel confident to talk about these CNUT's and for the reader to understand what they truly are.