Suicide Isn't Painless

A person said how they blamed themselves for the suicidal death of their CNUT. They did the usual 'I should have ____' and 'if only I had ____' which is understandable as that is a means to avoid the pain of the event.

Even the Foo Fighters did a song about Kurt Cobain called, 'I should have known.' You get to fill in your own blanks.

Cobain put a hatred of people (hurting him too much) and not feeling a passion for music as the main reasons to kill himself. He thought his wife and child would be happier without him.

Ian Curtis of Joy Division cited reaching his musical pinnacle for his suicide. He had affairs, an impending divorce, anxiety and epilepsy going on and was on the eve of a US tour.   

We look back with a term known as Hindsight Bias. Somehow, now that we know the outcome of events we somehow think that we could have or should have predicted them. If you didn't see it at the time then you probably weren't ready to see it.

People do have their own lives and problems to tend to. Then you get the drama queens that always seem to need attention and have been suicidal for the past 30 years. 

With hindsight we fool ourselves that we have control over lives with this extra after the fact insight but as you should know, control is an illusion. You can think of 14000605 futures and still miss something really obvious. Plot twist, you just don't know everything.

Look how long it took Phil Connors to get things right in Groundhog day.

By nature CNUT's are usually cowards. If they attempt to kill themselves then it's a show. If they do kill themselves then they messed up the show.

10% of suicides are a choice. It's THEIR choice and unless you are evil and constantly work on someone with low self-worth and talk them into it, you can't just make another person kill themselves.

90% of suicides are by people that have a diagnosed mental illness or have suffered a severe trauma.

It is not your fault, nor is it the Victim's fault. So many things probably came together to give this person the tunnel vision that made them think that suicide was the only viable option.

The world or their family being better off without them. Of course they don't consult their family and if they did they just would refuse to believe what they heard.

Was you not returning their text or phone call the last straw? Well in that case it could have been a bad hair day or a parking ticket instead. It could have been anything.

Their have been CNUT's that leave a note blaming someone that they had spent years trying to manipulate. The ultimate CNUT mind game. Lets give those dead losers a slow hand clap.

A CNUT won't think twice about destroying their children's lives if it means they win in some kind of twisted way. 

You can do things to help someone who is suicidal. Be there for them, give them understanding. Remove any guns from the home, put them in touch with a professional that can help.

Even if you did everything you could, if a person really wants to kill themselves they will do it.

People will assign themselves blame but it is misplaced. There is never one reason or one person to blame. You might as well blame yourself about the rain, that makes just as much sense.